Parenting Gamers

How to Handle Video Game Violence

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In today’s society, it would be very easy to assume all video games are violent. The only time you hear about them in mainstream media is when someone who plays a lot of games does something terrible.

I started Parenting Gamers to combat that idea. I want to help you connect with your gamer. Coming at video games from a place of fear or attack will hurt that connection.

With that being said, however, the truth is, some video games are violent. Technology has advanced to the point where the graphics in these games are amazing. This gives developers the ability to depict more graphic situations than ever before.

As a parent, you are the arbiter of what is allowed in your home. No one knows your children better than you. No one understands what they can and cannot handle better than you. You have to decide what you are willing to allow in your home.

Know the Rating System

I have compared the ESRB rating system to the system used in movies. E = G, E-10=PG and so on. However, there is one distinction I want to make.

A movie can be rated R for many different reasons. The Passion of the Christ was rated R for its violence alone. The Heat received an R rating for some violence but mostly language. The Wolf of Wall Street for nudity and extreme sexual content, among other things. The R rating alone does not tell you everything you need to know about the content of the movie.

Video games, however, are different.

A video game with an M rating is violent.

I cannot think of any game that received an M rating for language or nudity without being violent. A game may include those things on top of violence. But with where things stand today, M means violent.

This makes it easy to keep violent games out of your home if that is the path you choose. If it is rated M, you do not want it. It is that simple.

If, however, you are OK with violence in certain situations, you will need to do some more research. Luckily the ESRB takes much of the guess work out.

You Have Options

I want to encourage you with this. Most video games are not violent. In 2012, the ESRB rated 1,218 games. 9% of those games received an M rating. That means 91% of the games rated received a rating equivalent to PG-13 or less.

So, whatever you choose for your home, you have options. There are a ton of quality games your gamer can play without being exposed to extreme violence. You just have to take an active role is helping them choose those games.

Benefits of Video Games

Last week, I showed you that video games will not make your child a mass murderer or a fat, lazy slob. But it is not just that video games are not bad. They can also be beneficial. Today, I want to  look at some of the benefits of video games.

This infographic from Psychology Degree breaks down a lot of the recent research done on video games. It shows how video games have been linked to better results in surgeons, higher creativity, better multi-tasking, and more social awareness.

Game Changers

Will Video Games Make My Child a Fat Slob?

Yesterday we address the question of violent video games causing violent behavior. Today, I want to answer the other big question. Will video games turn your child into an overweight slob, with no job, eating Cheetos while staring at the TV in my basement when they are 40?

As a parent, you want your child to grow up to be a well-rounded, contributing member of society. You want them to have a life of meaning. You do not want them to be the stereotypical gamer.

That stereotype, as with most, is false. I have played video games most my life. I have also lived a very full, meaningful life. I played in the band and on the soccer team in high school. I finished college in 3 years with a computer science degree. I met and married an amazing woman. I have 2, about to be 3, kids. I own a house, pay my bills, and have no debt.

The stories you hear from the news media are extreme cases. Yes, there are people who get obsessed. But that is the case no matter what hobby you are talking about.

The key is finding balance. It is our job as parents to help our kids find that balance. We are responsible for setting boundaries that allow them to flourish and grow in a healthy way.

Tomorrow I am going to release an e-book called Connecting with Your Teenager through Video Games. Its purpose is to equip you as a parent with the knowledge you need to connect with your kids through video games. It will help you evaluate a game’s content plus give you ideas on how to be involved in your gamer’s gaming.

Will Video Games Make My Child Violent?

There are very few forms of media with a worse rep than video games. They have been blamed for everything from childhood obesity to mass murder. If you listen to the news, you may be wondering if you should allow your kids to play video games at all.

Video games are an easy target. When something bad happens, the news media can rage against them without having to really examine the situation. Politicians can then target them to show they are doing something to keep those bad things from happening again.

Is that rage and blame justified? Are video games really that bad?

Violent Video Games

The debate over violence in video games began in earnest in 1992 with the release of Mortal Kombat. Mortal Kombat was a fighting game that gives the winning player the opportunity to perform a “Fatality”. This is an ultra-violent move that results in the gruesome death of the losing character.

As the video game industry has grown and advanced, so has the violence. Each new hardware cycle brings more power for developers to create more graphic situations, both violent and otherwise. This has led many to blame violent video games for massacres ranging from Columbine in 1999 to the Norway attacks in 2011.

The problem is there is conflicting evidence on how much of a role violent video games play in these situations. Some studies find a link, others do not. However, there is one piece of data that is very telling.

The video game industry has been growing tremendously over the last few decades. It is projected to hit $70 billion by 2015. And, as I mentioned, the technology has allowed the games to become more graphic and violent. So, if there is a correlation between violent video games and violent behavior, I would expect violent crime to increase as well. However, this is not the case.

According to the FBIs Uniform Crime Reports, violent crime has declined since 1994, “reaching the lowest rate ever in 2009.” I admit this is not proof video games have no affect. It does tell me, though, they have less affect than the news media or politicians want you to believe.

When it comes down to it, I do not believe violent video games directly lead to violent behavior.

Choosing Non-Violent Games

However, I would never allow my 4-year old to play something violent. She just cannot handle it yet. The good news is, I have choices.

Violent video games make up a small portion of all video games released in a year. The ESRB (the organization that gives video games their content rating) rated 1,332 games in 2011. 9% of those games received an M rating, which is equivalent to an R rating for a movie. A full 65% (886 games) received a rating of E or E10+ (G and PG).

As a parent, you know what your kids can and cannot handle better than anyone else. I know my daughter is too young to be exposed to violent games. So I do not play them with or around her. But there are still a ton of games I can enjoy with her.

With that said, there is one more question about video games that needs to be answered.

They may not make my child violent, but won’t video games turn him/her into an overweight slob, with no job, eating Cheetos while staring at the TV in my basement when they are 40?

I will address that question tomorrow.